You were cruising along, thinking you’d found the person you wanted to introduce to your parents, when bam, something changed. You can’t put your finger on why, but suddenly your emotional thermostat took a nosedive, going from red hot to ice cold.
What did they do to make you feel this way? We reckon your Myers and Briggs personality type might just hold the answer.
ISTJ: Gossip
If your date starts spilling the tea on a mutual friend, you want to call a taxi instead of grabbing the popcorn. Congrats, you’ve just caught frosty feelings! ISTJs value honesty and direct communication, so you’re likely to lose interest in the person bringing drama and rumors to the table. You’re also going to doubt their loyalty, which is a deal-breaker.
ISTP: Boredom
For you, ISTP, relationships are supposed to be fun, not as boring as a DIY show rerun. If your partner always wants to do the same couch-and-takeaway marathon, but you dream of adrenaline-packed dates, buckle up for a rollercoaster ride through hot and cold feelings.
ISFJ: Feeling-bashing
It’s not easy for you to express your feelings, is it ISFJ? Because of this, you don’t take it lightly when someone brushes off your feelings when you do (eventually) open up to them or worse—they try to censor your emotions. If someone keeps dissing your feelings, your feelings for them will turn cold in a snap.
ISFP: Prying
ISFPs are super-private, which means you’ll go out of your way to avoid sharing every (or any) aspect of your life. So you really don’t appreciate it when the person you’re dating tries to play FBI agent to get the juice on your deepest secrets. If they suggest exchanging social media passwords, you’ll block them.
INFJ: Small talk
INFJs are deep and introspective, so the last thing you want to do with your date is small talk about the weather, the latest celebrity gossip, or how nice your food is. If the conversation never dives deeper than a rain puddle, your feelings for them will cool off faster than you can say, “Can we talk about something meaningful, please?"
INFP: People-pleasing
Although you value people who put effort into relationships, you cringe when they start pleasing you too much, INFP. Is your date saying ‘yes’ when they really mean ‘no’? You’ll revoke their dating card faster than you can say ‘bye.’ You don't want self-sacrificing; you want mutuality.
INTJ: Invading your space
Having boundaries in place is a form of self-respect, INTJ, preventing others from walking all over you. It’s a no-no when the person you’re dating violates them, like by pitching up at your house when you said you were busy. You’ll go from interested to ignoring them with no drop in your confidence. Time to delete their number!
INTP: Unsolicited advice
INTPs can be confusing, with erratic mood swings that make you blow hot and cold regardless of what the other person is doing (don’t get mad). But that doesn’t mean you're not open to advice others give you, as long as you’ve asked for it! As an INTP, you’ll get turned off when the person you’re dating starts a sentence with, “Here’s what you need to do.” There goes another relationship candidate!
ESTP: Being judged
Oh, ESTP, you are the critic who hates being criticized. Your partner might not know this when they accidentally judge you or make you feel like you’re not good enough—but they’ll soon find out when you ice them out without any hesitation. There’s no coming back from this.
ESTJ: Laziness
When your partner lies around instead of helping you with chores or doesn’t seem to have any energy to achieve their goals, it grates your nerves. You’re a hard-working person who refuses to waste time, ESTJ. If someone can’t keep up with your pace, they’re not the one for you. Simple as that.
ESFP: Seriousness
You appreciate seriousness at appropriate times, ESFP, but there’s serious and then there’s serious. You don’t want your partner to bring you down because they can’t laugh at themselves. You need an audience for your witty remarks, or what’s the point of dating someone, right? Your feelings stay hot for people who let you be silly, not buzzkills.
ESFJ: Interrupters
For an ESFJ, there is nothing worse than when you’re sharing a funny story and your partner cuts you off before you reach the punchline. You’re not in the business of spending time with people who hog the spotlight and reduce you to the shadows. It’s not that you want to steal the limelight for yourself, but you want everyone to get some time being the center of attention. Fair is fair, and the cold shoulder awaits anyone who doesn’t understand that.
ENFP: Negativity
You are a big team player, ENFP, with a gift for uplifting and encouraging the people around you. So, if you’re dating a Moaning Minnie, you’ll hit the brakes fast. But hey, since you’re a problem solver, you’ll probably try to help them see the silver lining as you walk out the door.
ENFJ: Rejection
You are the personality type who goes for what you want and can be intense in all things, ENFJ. When it comes to romance, you don’t hesitate to make the first move and let the person know how you feel. If they don’t respond right away with just as much enthusiasm, you’ll go off them in a heartbeat. Next!
ENTP: Micromanaging
Freedom is one of the most important things you need to be happy, ENTP. If your partner’s trying to manage you, nag you, limit you or dictate to you, you’ll feel claustrophobic. You love sharing ideas and building closeness with your partner, but you draw the line when there’s a whiff of controlling behavior.
ENTJ: Emotional outbursts
Not much terrifies you, ENTJ, but emotional outbursts sure do. If your partner loses their cool or throws a tantrum in public, you’ll duck for cover and hope no one thinks you’re together. You need your relationship to be a power-couple dynamic, not a soap opera, and you expect your partner to handle their emotions with maturity.
